If you’ve just entered a relationship or you’re in the middle of ending a relationship and going through a divorce, there’s definitely a grieving process that you have to go through such as sadness, disappointments and depression.
While that can seem very scary, there are so many benefits to one door closing and another one opening. In this article, we will provide you some insights to switch your thinking from being a scary thing to being a great thing and ready to embrace separation in your relationship.
Know That You Deserve Better
Regardless of how the relationship ended, the relationship ended. So, the chances are, one of you or both of you were not happy in the relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’re being the one that’s ending the relationship or if someone’s ending a relationship, because what matters is that even if you’re the one that got dumped or thought that the relationship is great but the other person didn’t, you don’t want to be with someone who’s not happy in your relationship because they won’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Knowing you deserve better is where you can take a step back and re-evaluate yourself and your past relationships. See what it is that you want and the things that can make you happy as well as how do you want to feel in the relationship. So often we end a relationship and go into another one with our expectations and list, but we don’t really stop and think about how we want to feel in the relationship, what were the things that we felt were lacking or the things that we felt like we weren’t getting. Maybe you were in a relationship with a partner and every time you really were vulnerable with them, you didn’t feel that empathy coming from the other person. So, really taking the time to think about how you want to feel aside from things that you would like in a partner is very important before you enter a new relationship.
Start Loving Yourself
This is an opportunity for you to be alone and to start loving yourself. If the relationship has ended, maybe there were things in that relationship that you notice where you didn’t love yourself or you didn’t have standards in your relationship. This is your opportunity to just be by yourself and love yourself. Learn positive and healthy self-talk, how to enjoy your own company, respect yourself and be happy and healthy just by yourself. If you’re not happy and whole by yourself, you’re always going to be looking to attract people into your life thinking that that person is going to fill you up.
Do What You Love
Do the stuff that you love to do. This is a great chance for you to enhance your physical, emotional and spiritual state by doing what you enjoy such as going back to the gym and get your body into shape, reconnect with people that you haven’t seen in a long time, start a new hobby and plan a trip with your friends or buddies.
Regardless how your relationship ends, know that it’s not the end of the world and there is an exciting future waiting for you.
— Emily Morse (@SexWithEmily) June 15, 2018